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HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR FAMILY
Technology has reached everything everywhere, even within the art of communication. I mean, you can e-mail a big parcel to anybody anywhere you want. That parcel could contain anything, even a whole room's furniture. The only thing that could not be e-mailed in that parcel, although you truly wish you could, is your family. Well, some of you might have the talent to do that, you know? Just kidding! You can't escape them. They are a part of your life and a reality that you have to cope with. The solution is very easy but it needs cooperation from both sides: teens and parents. It's the art of communication, my friend. If you are smart enough to manage that, I can assure you that you'll be living in a paradise! So here are some tips that might help you start your journey towards a successful family life.
Embarrassing Families
You just met that cool girl, you almost worked your way to her, and began chatting showing her your extra cool side, that's great! No no, that was actually nothing, my score was higher last time (you had beaten your friend at tennis 5-love), you know, and ooooops, your mom pops in! "What's the sweetie's name darling? Won't you introduce us? You're such a bad boy! I'm proud of you because you lost so much weight. You seem to bring luck sweetie, my little boy won the game today for the first time in his life" and splaaaash, you're gone!!! Well, lots and lots of these situations happen to everyone everyday (but that was a little exaggerated, we have to be fair). Funny nicknames, messing with friends from the other sex, and many others, yet, you have to know that
your parents are acting completely normal, they really don't mean any harm. It's the problem of realization that we're dealing with again, and as we said, it's hard for adults to cope with our fast development.
Communication is very important in these situations. In fact, it is the only way to get off the hook. Start by letting them know that you completely accept their love and that you're extremely happy with it. Then start telling them that you really appreciated what they said in a certain situation, and do a lot of that. Then try to explain to them that other guys may not understand that, and they may call you a sissy or something, and that you have such a special relationship that can hardly be understood. Go on with that and you will really be surprised. No matter what happens, never ever in your life mention the word embarrassing or any similar word that might hurt their feelings.
Siblings Rivalry
You have his T-shirt, he hides your handbag, you go tell his girlfriend about the romantic phone call he received yesterday, he vows to squash you socially. When will all this end?! Fighting between teen brothers and sisters is normal and easy to deal with. But the point is that we can deal with the causes and erase the whole problem. The parents control most of these causes, like giving freedom to males more than females, or preferring a son or a daughter to the other and making it obvious in their treatment, or other causes like jealousy from youngers or elders and vice versa, and lots and lots of other stuff.
First of all, it's completely normal. Again, the most important solution is to Talk to them. Try to be frank; in other words, an open book. Make sure you make them feel that they know mostly everything about you so they can trust you. Never lie to them. Talk to them about your friends and make them feel that you are responsible enough by choosing them. Also try to tell them your problems and let them know that you want them to take part in finding the solution, and that their advice is very important to you.
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